Posted by: Mermaid | May 15, 2010

رجالة آخر زمن

واحدة صاحبتي كانت بتتعرف على واحد وهو بالفعل زارها في بيتها مع أهله عشان يتعرفوا على باباها ومامتها. وبعدين بدأوا يتكلموا في التليفون عشان يتعرفوا على بعض أكتر. كنت باعرف حاجات عن الولد ده بتخليني عايزة أضرب صاحبتي إنها لسة مكملة معاه! شك ونكد لأبعد الحدود (قال بيقولك الستات نكديين!!!) المهم فجأة.. بخ.. الولد إختفى؛ يا إما قافل موبايله يا إما مش بيرد عليها! السؤال دلوقتي؛ ليه هو مش راجل كفاية إنه يقول لها كل شيء قسمة ونصيب ومش هاينفع نكمل مع بعض؟ مكسوف يا قلب ماما؟!!!ا

نفس الموقف حصل معايا قريب بسيناريو مختلف شوية. كنت باتعرف على حد وحسيت إننا مختلفين فاتصلت وإعتذرت له. وكان تعليقه إن ده قرار شجاع (مافهمتش ساعتها معنى كلامه لكن تقريباً كان قصده إني شجاعة إني أرفض راااااجل مهما كانت عيوبه! كان المفروض أمسك في ركبه وأتبت وأصرخ: “عريس يامااااي!”) بعد ما الموضوع إتقفل بشوية رجع كلمني تاني وحاول يفتح الموضوع وحسيت ببعض التغير فيه فا قلت وماله أديله فرصة تانية، وبدأنا نتكلم. وبعد حوالي ثلاث أسابيع، من غير مقدمات… بخ! أيوه.. بخ! ذهب مع الريح!ا

ليه الرجالة (أو بعضهم!) مش رجالة كفاية إنهم يواجهوا مواقف زي ديه؟! أنا أعرف بنات كتير (وأنا منهم) لما فيه حاجة مش بتعجبهم بيقفوا ويرفعوا راسهم ويقولوا بأدب: “لأ، الموضوع مش نافع.” إظاهر إن الآية إتقلبت والرجالة بقت هي اللي بتتكسف وبتهرب من المواقف اللي حاسين إنهم مش قدها!ا

رجالة آخر زمن (مع مصمصة شفايف)!ا


Responses

  1. Ya Mayada ana mo5talef,

    el donia bete7arrak fe kol 7aga fel siasa we afkar l nas we 3adat l mogtama3 we kol 7aga… fe 7agat lel a7san… we 7agat tania…

    el mohem enti momken to3odi tektebi 10 blogs 3an 3oyoub regala.. wana akteb 3an 3oyoub l neswan… aw ana 3ala daffa men el nil wenti l daffa l tania we nermi 3ala ba3d toub le3’ayet mayeb2a benna gabal…

    ana shayef en l 3oyoub fel ragel wel set we kol wa7ed fehom fe 7agat teshel…

    think positively… :)

  2. I am thinking positively ya Mega :) But this doesn’t mean that when I notice such a trait that goes against manhood as well as being an adult, I would just ignore it and say: “mesh moshkela, mana feyya el 3abear”. I like to do something about what I see as a negative thing and my blog is one of my means to be positive and do something about what I do not like. I hope that if a man who adopts the above attitude reads this post would really consider it the next time he’d intend to be “gone with the wind”.

    By the way, some time ago I was in a relation and he ended it by calling and saying we cannot be together. This is manly and mature!

    P.S.: “neswan” is very offending! You can say “setat” or “banat” or if you wish to go classical Arabic, “neswa” :)

  3. Baladi awe ya 7sein :) Saiba el kawkaz nafso we maska fel takawkoz :D

    ya Mayada! enti zai benti l bekreya :) fe Nes.. banat we setat go with the wind too fe mawakef tania kaman… it is about ta7amol el mas2oleya… ma7adesh beyet7amel mas2oleya.. regala we setat.. fel sho3’l we fel beit we fel share3… ana 3ayez a2oul enaha moshkelet mogtama3 fe zaman.. mesh walad we bent!

  4. I thought of mentioning it 3ashan if you mentioned “neswan” before a women, most probably you’ll end up in a hospital :P

    Women have their (many) flaws too. Who said they’re perfect?! Talking about flaws isn’t a negative thing. The above mentioned guys not only not responsible but they cannot even face situations where they need to put a mature attitude on!

    I like to believe I am a responsible, mature person (fel beit we fel shoghl we fel share3). That’s why I’m irritated when 25+ people act otherwise!

    Wallahy ya Mega I have not met girls who do not answer guys’ calls and just disappear when they’re not interested. So, I think this specific issue is gender related.

  5. well am sorry bs dool la yntbq 3alehom kelmt (ragel) homma (mozkr ) lkn msh ragel ..

    big difference ;)

  6. Wallahi ya Mayada msh 3arfa a2ollek eih .. I hate to generalize too, but I know a lot of people that had the same case happening to them.

    A friend of mine just recently had someone proposing at her place and meeting with her dad (so very official ya3ny) and then after a couple of weeks from this meeting he’s gone. vanished. she tried calling him but he wouldn’t answer. And then he sent her a text message on her cell saying “it’s over”, and again when she tried to call or ask what happened he never picked up!!

    Also a very dear friend of mine had this guy from work who approached her and expressed interest and that he would love if they get to know each other better. They were communicating for 3 weeks and then he changed job and disappeared. Never called back or answered her calls or replied to her messages.

    This same girl had a former suitor doing the same thing. He took an appointment to meet her parents and never showed up and also disappeared.
    And I have many other similar stories!

    El so2al ba2a, howwa fee 7aga mo3ayyana???!

  7. I guess this is just the way they are… women are MUCH braver than men when it comes to feelings…

    m3 enohom fakren fe3lan enena mabensada2!!!

    and in ur case… i think he did this 3shan yeb2a howa eli 2afal el mawdo3 3shan akid gat 3la karamto en wa7da terfodo..

    yalla bala araf :D

  8. Cindy,

    I agree… homma mozakar faqat :)) I like the differentiation :D

    Nahla,

    My GOODNESS!!! La2, la2, la2!!! He gave the parents me3ad and he didn’t show up and then disappeared?????!!! Begad hatalafaz! And the other one who sent her a TEXT msg?!!!! BEGAD?!!! Hatalafaz tany!!!

    Kelma wa7da… 2atee3a!

    Batta,

    Sa7, “women are much braver than men when it comes to feeling!” Very true!

    In my case, when he started re-approaching me, a friend of mine said the very same thing you wrote here. But I thought he was 34 fa he should be mature enough not to play such childish games. But I think I was wrong!

    loool @ yalla bala araf :D


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